When I started looking at what I wanted to change in my life, it was challenging. I wasn’t sure how to figure out what I wanted to do. I had vague ideas of what my goals were, but nothing concrete, and I wasn’t sure what things in my life made me happy and what things didn’t. I decided to spend some time creating a vision of what I would do if I could do anything. This dream helped motivate me to make some big changes.
1. Suspend reality
The first step to dreaming big is suspending reality. It is easy to get stuck in a pattern of thinking, “I would really like to do this, but that will never work because…” Trust me, I know this is tough. We are taught to be practical and realistic. When we envision a new path we want to know how we are going to get there, and that can be overwheming. It’s easy to come up with reasons why your dream life won’t work, but for now allow yourself to imagine your life exactly the way you want it.
2. Ask yourself what the perfect day looks like
Don’t worry about where you currently live, the job you have or your current financial situation. Just imagine where you would be and what you would be doing if you could do anything. Where would you live, what kind of work or activities would you do, who would be with you? You can worry about how to get there later, for now just come up with a perfect day vision so you know where you want to go. Think about the things that are important to you and what makes you feel alive. Your perfect life won’t be free from challenges, but it should be full of what makes you content.
3. What you are currently doing that works for you? What isn’t working?
If you look at your perfect day and life, what are you currently doing that fits in with that plan? Rather than get discouraged if you aren’t living your dream, look at ways your current life can help you get there. Make a list of things you enjoy and things you don’t so as you move forward you can make more time for the activities and people you love.
4. What do you want to accomplish in life professionally, personally, financially, etc?
Think about these questions in relationship to your perfect day. If your perfect day was you on a beach reading a good book, what do you have to accomplish professionally and personally to get there? I know I want to be able to “retire” in my mid-forties with no debt and limited expenses so I can choose work I want to do on a limited basis. I wanted to be able to travel and spend time with my family. I made a list of things I had to accomplish to get to that point and it is going to take me 10 years to get to my “ultimate dream life”, but I also looked for things I could do immediately that brought me closer to my dream and that helped me start making changes.
5. Have courage!
Dreaming Big requires courage. We are all wired to like routine, and even taking the time to really think about what your dream life looks like can be scary. It can also be challenging if we realize we aren’t really living a life aligned with our values and goals. Anytime you consider change, it can be overwhelming. However, dreaming big can help you lead a more intentional life that is full of the things that really matter to you.
I would love to hear more about your dream!